Is an Open Relationship Right for Me? - Humantold

Is an Open Relationship Right for Me? 

Zeenat Davis, MHC August 11, 2023

Open relationships can be an exciting alternative to traditional monogamy, but they're not suitable for everyone.

In recent times, ethical non-monogamy has gained recognition as individuals embrace alternative relationship dynamics. Among these, open relationships have emerged as a popular choice. An open relationship involves a couple remaining emotionally committed to each other while also engaging in sexual and sometimes emotional connections with other individuals. This article aims to delve into the concept of open relationships, offering insights to help you determine whether this unique relationship style aligns with your desires and needs.

Understanding open relationships

Open relationships and other forms of ethical non-monogamy, such as swinging, polyamory, or polygamy, are not new practices. However, we’re living in a time that encourages individuals to openly discuss their dating preferences, and for some, that includes exploring non-monogamous options. It's important to note that there is no one-size-fits-all approach to open relationships. Some couples may engage in secondary relationships or have multiple partners, while others focus primarily on sexual intimacy outside of their committed partnership. Ultimately, the nature of an open relationship depends on the preferences and agreements made by the couple involved.

Establishing mutual understanding

Similar to monogamous relationships, open relationships require a solid foundation of mutual understanding and respect. Couples must engage in open and honest communication to determine their desires and set appropriate boundaries. By exploring the advantages and disadvantages of an open relationship and discussing how they will prioritize their commitment to each other, a couple can establish a mutual understanding. This can also be done by creating rules they both adhere to and establishing appropriate boundaries within their relationship. These rules should align with the couple's preferences and emphasize safe sex practices, such as using protection and regular STI screenings. For example, a couple may agree not to engage intimately with individuals their partner knows personally or has had past relationships with.

Addressing jealousy and negative feelings 

Just like in any relationship, feelings of jealousy or other negative emotions may arise when a partner interacts with others. Addressing these emotions is a vital part of prioritizing the couple's relationship. Open and honest discussions about such feelings can enhance intimacy and provide reassurance that both partners are invested in maintaining their connection. While conflicts may not always be fully resolved, it is crucial to acknowledge and address them to ensure a healthy relationship dynamic. 

Keeping the conversation going

This decision is not a one-time thing nor does it have to be permanent. Regular conversations should be held to address concerns, needs, and desires, as they ebb and flow. 

As human beings, we all deserve love that is genuine, respectful, and compassionate. Open relationships can provide an avenue for exploring ethical non-monogamy while maintaining an emotional commitment to a partner. However, entering into an open relationship requires careful consideration, open communication, and a mutual understanding of boundaries. By exploring the possibilities and discussing your desires and concerns with your partner, you can make an informed decision about whether an open relationship is right for you. Remember, every relationship is unique, and finding what works best for both partners is essential for fostering a healthy and fulfilling connection.

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