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Navigating Grief During the Holidays

Kimberly Jaso, MHC-LP December 13, 2023

Navigating grief during the holidays is a complex and individual journey, yet can be managed with a balance of self-compassion, flexibility, and support.

The holiday season, often portrayed as a time full of joy, celebration and togetherness, can feel like anything but when you are mourning the loss of a loved one. Traditions you once loved can become painful reminders of the loss in your life, family members may have difficulty understanding or talking to you about your experiences with grief, and you may experience a wide range of emotions you didn’t expect. Know this: you’re certainly not alone in feeling this way, and it’s okay to feel sad, even during a traditionally happy time. There’s also no time limit on grief or expectation that you should be healed and “moved on” by a certain time. So whether this is the first holiday season you’re celebrating without your loved one or the tenth (and beyond), let’s explore some ways to navigate the holidays if you’re grieving. 

Acknowledge Your Feelings

One of the first steps in managing grief during the holidays is to acknowledge and accept your feelings. It's okay to feel a mix of emotions, from sadness and anger to nostalgia and even moments of joy. Allow yourself to experience and express these emotions without judgment. Suppressing or denying your feelings can intensify the grief and make it even more challenging to navigate the holiday season. 

Create New Traditions

Traditions often play a significant role during the holidays, and the absence of a loved one can make existing traditions painful reminders of loss. Consider creating new traditions or modifying existing ones to honor the memory of your loved one in a meaningful way. This could involve lighting a special candle, preparing a favorite dish, or participating in an activity that you once enjoyed together. By incorporating elements that celebrate their life, you can find a way to feel connected while also establishing a sense of continuity. However, if you’d rather not participate in a particular tradition because it’s too painful or uncomfortable, that’s okay, too. Choosing not to do something doesn’t mean you’re not honoring or remembering the person in your own way.

Set Realistic Expectations

The holidays may not look or feel the same when grieving, and that's perfectly okay. Set realistic expectations for yourself and recognize that it's alright to scale back on festivities if needed. Communicate openly with friends and family about your emotional state, so they understand your needs and can provide the support you require. Give yourself permission to decline invitations or opt-out of certain activities if they feel overwhelming. By prioritizing self-care, you allow yourself the flexibility to navigate the season at your own pace.

Seek Support

Grief can be an isolating experience, especially during a time when others are celebrating. Don't hesitate to seek support from friends, family, or a mental health professional. Your loved ones are likely eager to support you and may just not know how. Many people are often afraid to ask about loved ones or bring up memories of people if they worry about upsetting you. Communicate to others the kind of support you are looking for, whether you are looking for someone to join you in remembering your loved one, or would prefer not to talk about them, but want to know that they are thinking of you. 

Joining a support group specific to grief can also provide a safe space to share your feelings and connect with others who understand the unique challenges of mourning during the holidays. Therapists can also offer guidance on coping strategies and provide a non-judgmental space for processing your grief.

Practice Mindfulness

Mindfulness can be a valuable tool for managing grief, helping you stay present in the moment without becoming overwhelmed by past memories or future worries. Engage in activities that ground you, such as deep breathing exercises, meditation, or taking a mindful walk. By cultivating an awareness of your thoughts and emotions, you can create a sense of calm amid the holiday chaos and ground yourself in the moment and what really matters.

Honoring Boundaries

Establishing and maintaining boundaries is crucial when managing grief during the holidays. Be honest with yourself about what you can handle and communicate those boundaries to others. You may want to set limits on social engagements, avoid triggering situations, or request support when needed. Respecting your boundaries is a vital component of self-care and can help alleviate some of the stress associated with navigating the holiday season while grieving.

Remembering and Celebrating

If and when you’re ready, consider taking time to remember and celebrate the life of your loved one during the holiday season. Display their photos, share mementos, or write a tribute to them that allows you to reflect on your cherished memories with them. Lighting a candle in their honor or participating in a charitable act in their name can also be meaningful ways to keep their spirit alive during the holidays.

Managing grief during the holidays is undoubtedly a complex and individual journey, yet if you can prioritize self-compassion, flexibility, and seeking support from others, you may find it easier to navigate. There is no right or wrong way to grieve though, especially during the holidays, and everyone's journey is unique. Be patient with yourself and allow the process to unfold organically, one holiday season at a time.

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